What do I tell my other children?

Children often are more aware and knowledgeable about things going on around them then we credit them for. While not telling them often comes from a place of protection, this can lead to confusion. Therefore, as a general rule, if the child(ren) knew about the pregnancy, it’s important to tell them about the loss.

While there is no universal answer consider some of the following: the age of the child(ren), their emotional maturity as well as their experience with death and grief.  

With that in mind, the delivery of the news should be clear and direct. It’s best to avoid medical terminology that can confuse the child(ren). As you explain, pause and confirm that there is an understanding of what’s being said before continuing on. Lastly, remind the child(ren) that it’s nobody’s fault and validate their feelings. 

If you are overwhelmed and unsure of how to start this conversation, you should reach out for support.